A few weeks ago a good friend of mine sent me an e-mail which contained quotes from Regina Brett, a columnist for The Plain Dealer in Cleveland, many of which I felt were especially sage. Now that I look at most of them I see that the concepts are simple – on the whole- but still especially good advice.
My subject title is part of one quote which got my attention because it seemed to be stuck in a grey area which didn’t make sense. The entire quote is this:
"It’s okay to get angry with God. He can take it."
Perhaps it’s because I often have a difficult time with separating anger from hatred that it took awhile for me to get my head wrapped around that idea as acceptable Christian behavior. After all, one is a strong emotion while the other is a taboo attitude. A Christian must not harbor hatred. It’s obvious to everyone that anger can get out of hand and appear to be hatred. In Ephesians 4:26 & 27 it states "Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil." As you read further to the end of the chapter it reveals how the true nature of anger can be distorted if repressed and used for evil if this emotion is allowed to be carried by the wrong spirit and given over to lies.
If you examine verse 26B you’ll see that anger hidden and couched is the worst kind of dishonesty. It’s unhealthy, to say the least and separates you from people and God, over time. The most extreme form of anger is when Christians somehow turn away from God, and become uncommunicative with Him to the point of denying Him altogether. Matthew Henry stated, "Secret disaffection to God is often disguised with the color of respect to Him." It’s not possible to fool God with false respect, however, people are a different matter!
My conclusion on this question forms a very important and broader question everyone should ask themselves from time to time:
"What is my relationship really like with my creator ? Do I open up to God or do I play games when life seems unfair or just doesn’t go according to my plan ?"
An honest relationship with God will occasionally bring forth issues which might make you angry. The question is not whether He can take it ; doesn’t it stand to reason that it’s better to ask yourself, "Can our relationship ( yours and Gods ) take this emotion ?" You see even the relationship between yourself and your savior can become abusive and He doesn’t dole out abuse. Do you? People often carry out all their relationships in an abusive manner because of their upbringing as a child. It’s very easy for them to fall into the same patterns that they have carried out most of their lives. Obviously this can become a very thorny issue.
Perhaps this is why Jesus referred to God as being His Father. If you cannot get angry and express this emotion toward a parent (who may or may not continue to love you unconditionally), then how will you be able to deal with this same emotion to the parent who is not "visually" present? God has placed no conditions on us because of His Son, but do we place conditions on Him?
It’s best to treat our relationship with God as if we were trying to keep a love relationship in order because as a matter of fact it is a love relationship. Anger may have it’s place in an association with anyone but it’s best that there is a true rapport first and an unconditional love. Unconditional love is irrevocable and eternal. It is also essential or it just doesn’t work.
As always, The Castle Lady supplies a plenary session of hugs and kisses !
God is a comedian playing to an audience too afraid to laugh. – Voltaire