After seeing Jim Carrey’s movie (which I mentioned in my New Year’s Eve entry, 2008 A Year in Retrospect ) I started thinking about some flash cards I’ve kept on my person for quite a few years. They came from a motivational course which was titled How to be a No-Limit Person. Any time my life tends to get stalled in some small or large way I pull them out and start reading them again because it’s the fastest way I know to get myself in gear. These six flash cards always seem to do the trick and I may add that with these I don’t have to do the New Year’s Resolutions bit. Resolutions only work if someone is solely motivated by the pressure of beginnings. How about finishing what you started? Here we go:
1. Be a No-Limit Person starting now.
Don’t just read this, teach yourself: "Everything that makes me feel inadequate results from my perception of what’s out there."
The difference between being a No-Limit Person and feeling frustrated, resentful, unhappy and neurotic is not because you have problems. We all have to deal with sickness, getting older, our children disappointing us, etc. So just keep reminding yourself:
I cannot always control what goes on outside,
but I can always control what goes on inside.
2. Start making good choices.
Don’t ever forget that you are the sum total of the choices you make and stop making excuses for bad choices. Are you shy? Nervous ? Scared to get up in front of a group ? Afraid to speak out ? Do you get angry too much ? Just remember:
Anything inside that immobilizes me, gets in my way, keeps me from my goals, is all MINE.
I can throw it away if I choose.
3. Take some risks and stop worrying.
Start listening to those inner signals that help you make the right choices- no matter what anyone thinks. The next time you get nervous about others’ opinions, look them mentally in the eye and say,
"What you think of me is none of my business."
This happens to be a book title but is also great advice, so start using it.
4. Expect to stay healthy.
It’s amazing how expectations affect not only your life but your health. You get a sniffle and say, "Oh boy, here it comes. Tomorrow it’ll be in my chest and the next day a fever, and I’ll have to miss work." Or you can say: "I don’t want this. I’ll get some extra rest, keep active, not focus on this, just not let it get in my way."
You can set yourself up to be sick or you can choose to stay well.
5. Take charge of your feelings and regain control of your life.
People who panic or get depressed usually do so because they have lost control- they give up responsibility for how badly they feel. As a result they let others take charge of their life- thinking it’s easier- and turn around and blame others for their troubles.
You created these feelings yourself.
6. Live this day as if it were your last.
Remember the bumper sticker that said, "This is the first day of the rest of your life?" Revise that to: "This is the last day of my life and I am going to live it as if I didn’t have any more."
The truth is, I don’t and you don’t. The past is over and gone. The future is not guaranteed. We all know someone- our own age- who was killed in an accident. ( For me that is absolutely true. A fellow Job’s Daughter initiate of mine was hit by a car on her orientation day at college. She was killed instantly and I’ll never forget how beautiful she was- she had also just become engaged with her High School sweetheart. I believe we were both seventeen years old at the time.) Death can happen at any time. So, if you get nothing else out of this, keep this one idea in your mind and…
stop acting as if life is a rehearsal.
Grande besos y abrazos, The Castle Lady !